Right now you're doing well in your sitch. Like I told my kids when my W was going through her MLC, there is nothing we can do to control mom. BUT we CAN choose to control what WE do. So we would go out and have the best time of our lives. I took them to places my W would never have agreed to. I started really engaging and learned new skills that the kids and I could share together. And we went exploring. It actually made me realize how much I was missing out on.
When my W would say or do something that would hurt myself or the kids, I immediately put my foot down and told her how things were going to be rather than letting her drive the train. She started to re-establish respect for me after that.
Think of your W as like a teenager throwing a temper tantrum. They will push your buttons and try to see what they will get away with. But you lay the groundwork with consequences and follow through so that if they break those rules, they can see you're not someone to disrespect.
Hang in there.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
