Detachment and the end of limbo, sort of...too

[Painter]

Hi Phoebe,

I'm sorry L-friend let you down last night, and I'm glad you made it home okay and got a lot of sleep. That is a good sign.

I'm not sure what I think about the situation with L-friend. I think he could have invited you to stay over at his place since you expressed concern about driving home, but he was probably not at his best (I think you said he's struggling with some issues of his own?) - and I can't help thinking about how it must feel for him to see you grieve over another man (however natural that is for you to do now). It might be tricky - and probably one of the reasons why it's not always a great idea to go into a new R before you're done processing the feelings from the old R.

Anyway, I wouldn't necessarily take his reaction as a sign of not caring - maybe actually the opposite.