I addressed this difference of views with my WW, and she said that she sees him as a friend and that she is not romantically or otherwise involved. She also said that when she had to stop talking to him after I found out, she felt like she lost a "Friend". I told her that if I was in her shoes and someone else was involved with the destruction of my Family's life, I would not want to be friends with that person, they would disgust me for being a person involved in doing that. I stated that it's not like you weren't at fault too, but he was a predator...
Coconut,
My wife is very similar; her EA is a "friendship." The funny thing is, she's willing to end her marriage over the friendship. She doesn't seem to understand why having a friend, that she puts ahead of her own husband, would create marital issues. It's very strange. I wish I could offer some advice, but I'm still baffled by the whole ordeal.
