Husband just told me he is moving out.

[Mombear]

I really want to just shake him and say "That is because everyone in your life thinks you are making a mistake and acting like a total idiot!" And that he DESERVES to be judged, and that he SHOULD feel small for what he is doing.

But I didn't. I just listened, validated how he was feeling, and tried to equate it to an intervention - explained that those people all love him and want what is best for him and will love him no matter what.

As to the other question - the reason I feel like he needs to make a decision sooner than later is because we have young kids, and the 9 year old knows something is up. He's saying things like "I'm so glad daddy is sleeping in your bed again!" I don't think it is healthy for them to witness this.