Is there some particular reason he needs to make a decision now?
I hate limbo, so I can understand wanting to get out of it, but I think sometimes spouses who are struggling have the mental strength to not leave, but don't have the mental strength to actively recommit to working on the M. Especially in the absence of affairs or abuse, I don't know if pushing for an answer is in the best interest of preserving a marriage.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16