If I were to ask you what it meant to be controlling, what would you say ?
Do you often feel Misunderstood ...?
Would you say that , your reply to me was what a typical discussion with your spouse was ??
Originally Posted By: CT
Listen Mach1, and with all due respect, to you claiming I avoided something twice - since coming to DB community I have openly admitted to my wife actively sleeping with another man, that I am recovering from drug addiction, that I ignored my son, that I was molested, that my mother beat me, that I spied on my wife, that I was a criminal in my teenager years, that I struggle with violence, that I cheated on women, and every other self-deprecating item allowable to my life. Further, I have done my best to be here daily and offer support to others while seeking support on my own, my fight for self thread on newcomers is dominated by posting information dedicated primarily to helping people understand why the hell of infidelity exists. I assure you, I cannot illustrate an honesty any deeper than I have already done and I am not avoiding anything on purpose. Illustrations of action are desired here, I would suggest my actions support my claim.
I want to help you help me, but please be clear and remember sometimes people just don't understand the question or the communication approach. I also want to help those of you who help us. I have been a manager of other people for 12 years. One of the best things I proactively state is that "if you have a problem with understanding me and you do not share that problem with me, what opportunity have you given me to help either of us?" Those of you helping me are not mind readers, and I have now given you an opportunity.
It wasn't suggested, it happened.
First by Sandi in your third thread ???
Originally Posted By: Sandi2 post #2691543 - 07/20/16 09:24 AM
It would be helpful if you stuck to one thread until you have 100 posts. Also, if you will answer our questions, that would help us know how to advise you.
This seems to be the nail that has you hung up, so I will try to answer.....as long as you understand we have been given very little information.
The second one was on RSG's thread. I can get that one if you want it too...
And my point here isn't to bash you about it either.
My point is, that you appear to gloss over a lot of stuff quickly, just so you can get to the point where you are "right"...
The interpretation is the responsibility of the reader, not the writer....
Originally Posted By: CT
There's a guy MHL who I think was also named Missherlove at some point? Anyway he made some really great reference points in his story to accompany what all of you has said about time and what it does. There was another one (I clicked off it and now trying to find it again)by a guy named Fisherman or Fishing-something?
