the real fear is not as much it not working but getting blindsided by it again. Is that your real fear? Is that what you mean by abandonment?
This guy doesn't seem to be looking for the exit. Don't test him or push him towards it. He seems happy with you. Relax and enjoy that.
Being left behind again is a real concern for all of us here, because we know what it feels like. But I am also keenly aware of flip side, staying in a dating relationship that's ultimately not what I want. I think it's easy for us to lose sight of what dating is, deciding if this person is right for us. There's no dishonor in deciding to end it, this isn't your marriage, its dating and that's what it's for.
MB, this was not directed to you, particularly, it was just a thought that's been on my mind lately, that we are keen to fight for things we shouldn't. I am, perhaps, preaching to the choir.
