Got it. I think the part I wasn't understanding is why you would file an 'at fault' divorce if he didn't want to. I was under the impression that it made no difference but would be mostly symbolic or out of spite. If there is a legal benefit to you that is reasonable based on the situation then I can see where it might make sense to take it, and if so communicating that clearly is better than surprising him. Thanks for clearing it up, I knew I was missing something.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
