Roads Go Ever On

[DonH]

Abuse was not the best example of what I was trying to say. That's much more complicated. Just as I would not blame someone for having mental illness or the disease of addiction, on the other side, there is some responsibility for not treating either - still part of these things also prevent you from seeing what is or has happened. I very much understand that part of grooming when that happens makes it hard to stop. Yet others stop it in its tracks right away, even with the same person. Again this example was a bad one to make my point with as it's just too complex. Hopefully the other examples make sense as to why we teach people how to treat us. We really do. That's why we need to teach them to treat us well and treat us how we need. Tell me what you need and I'll try my best to deliver. Expect me to guess or just know and I'll likely fail.