I want to take time and fully respond but I wanted to say right away, taking everything at face value what you have said, I have to believe there is far less chance of him leaving you than the other way around. Nothing is fail safe. Rs are a risk. That said, from every thing you have written this guy is not planning on leaving you. That is your fear though and what we fear we create. Then you'll say, see I knew he was going to leave me and you'll have self fulfilled that fear. As Sotho said, try to just enjoy the journey. What I would do, and will if ever I even get to where you are, is ask the other person to just be honest and present with me. For me and I wonder if it's the same for you, the real fear is not as much it not working but getting blindsided by it again. Is that your real fear? Is that what you mean by abandonment?

I'll write more but really wanted to try to put your mind a little at ease. This guy doesn't seem to be looking for the exit. Don't test him or push him towards it. He seems happy with you. Relax and enjoy that.

More layer.


DonH
Midwest
Me 56
WAW-EXW 55
Met 11/95 / Married 5/00
Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06
4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D