As you probably realize already, your W has to keep criticizing you and make you into someone she can hate, so that it justifies her own behavior. It would be disorienting for her, and make her feel guilty, to recognize that you're a decent, loving husband.
Absolutely, Roe. It's the only way your wife can justify her actions, and is part of the "script" every WW and MLCer dishes out. Not sure if realizing that makes it any easier to stomach, but it's true. I had a really hard time during my ex's periodic nasty periods, and Job advised me to keep a rubber band around my wrist to snap when I felt like I was going to snap, to remind me to STFU and walk away.
Where were you and your kids while your wife was spending all this time with the OM this weekend?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
