More confused than before

[Cherry]

I'm so sorry you are going through all this whilst you have all the health worries on your mind too. It's really not fair. It's easier said than done, but try not to worry. He has already said some of the most hurtful things he could say to his wife, that he wants a divorce. If he goes away and thinks and comes back and says it, although it will hurt, it's really not anything new. This is the way someone put it across to me. And I found that really helpful to control the anxiety, worrying thoughts.

The fact that he is drinking again shows that he is having a hard time about something. This is all his chaos and all about him. Just keep the focus on you, meet with friends, take yourself for a pamper- anything that will make you smile. This is all we can do in these situations, we didn't break them, so we cannot fix them