I totally understand the dream feeling. It has all felt like a dream, that I have had to keep reminding myself that this is my life now. We really are/were soul mates, and this behavior is so out of left field. I'm glad he was able to get back in touch with himself enough to open up again and remember our love.
This probably sounds crazy, but I am a religious person and I really do believe that in his depression, he was more vulnerable to evil and hatred. He was drawn in by the darkness and couldn't even see the light.
I'm by no means out of the woods... Because he still has a separate apartment! This could all come crashing down in a matter of seconds. But for now, I'm holding on.
H39, W39 T18, M16 S9, S7 EA suspected 11/15 ILYBINILWY 1/16 Counseling 1/16 - 6/16 EA confirmed 1/16, ended 1/16 H signed lease to move out 8/18/16 (day before our anniversary)