Still Here

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Hi Elly, I'm glad to see another post from you and thinking about yourself and your life going forwards is a good step. I think in this process we move from drowning to surviving and hopefully on to thriving....you're at the middle stage which is progress!!

Like you, I seem to get more done when I slow down Hmm. I can recall one day feeling pretty rough with a cold at work. I just made a list, plodded along and got way more done than I seem to do on a normal day.

I struggled a bit with the whole goals thing and being organised about goals. Some people really get into all of that, but I struggled until I found my own way with it. What I did was bought a pretty A5 notebook and whenever I would think of something I wanted to do, I would write down that heading on the top of a blank page. Then if I thought of another goal, I started a new blank page and so on. After a while (I mean weeks here) I had a dozen or so goals.

Some of these were big goals. I want to settle our finances this year. Others were GAL related. I want to learn to dance. Others were about relationships. I want to keep in touch with SS and continue a R with him.

Any time I thought of an early step I could take towards a goal, I'd pop a bullet point down on the page for that goal and when I achieved a step, I'd tick off that bullet point. If I achieved a full goal, that page got a big tick.

This has worked for me anyway as it's kind of organic and I did find it hard to sit down with a blank piece of paper. My goal setting comes and goes. But any time I feel myself getting drifty I grab the notebook and see where I'm up to.

Ciluzen posted a great post on Esame's thread in MLC, which you may also be interested in.

Keep posting and thinking about where you want to go here. What your H is saying or doing will become less prominent over time if you keep heading in the right direction with things....

Xx