I meant he could perceive it that way. If Ow is gone you may not counterfile.Just how HE may interprete the OW statement. Don't worry about that too much. It is done and he will: interpret things his own way regardless.It was just an outsider view that could help in future.

Cherry. I think that is very fair, that OP is held partly responsable.

DonH, great words to live by. It expands slightly on the boundaries notions discussed on this forum. It does really apply to everyoneeven how we let our kids behave/treat us.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together