Vacation went well. It was wonderful. In the spirit of DB, I didn't do any relationship status check ins. I just had fun, enjoyed myself, and had a great time with my boys.
My husband and I met and fell in love traveling, and we do it well together. We immediately fell back in to that comfortable vacation mode, where we got each other, brought out the best in each other, and laughed nonstop.
We got home late last night and my husband returned to the master bedroom. No sex yet, and I know I need to talk to him soon about what this means. I'm not intending to just let him have the best of both worlds... We can't live like a married couple while he moves towards moving out.
I guess this means I'm in maybe an early reconciliation stage? What do I do? What do I say? Help, please.
Why can't you live like a married couple while he makes plans to move out?
I'm not up on your sitch, but it sounds like there isn't an affair in the mix, or any abuse. Is that correct?
If it is correct, I would NOT have a talk about what it all means. No R talks. Let the situation evolve as it evolves.
This does put you at risk for hurt if it blows up, but that's going to hurt anyway. I decided for me that the increased chance of success was worth the small additional hurt.
Just my two cents.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
