We teach people how to treat us. I so wish that everyone could learn that - which by the way I didn't create that great statement, I only follow it. When we allow people to get away with crazy it never stops. Sounds like your H has taught those in his life that it's never his fault or his choice. You are now teaching him differently. You are teaching him how to treat you. Will this get you closer to fixing the M? It may not but it sounds like you are deciding that you no longer want a crazy M anyway. You want a healthy one. He wants to continue he to get away with crazy. I think you are doing the complete right thing. He is not being controlled at all. He can follow the rules of your state or not. Controlling would be trying to get him to follow your rules. You just want him to follow written rules for D. That is totally his choice. It's best the kids learn this life lesson now.
You seem to be doing great! Keep at it.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
