Waw, she is in love, need advice/support II

[Zues126]

A good week with GAL activities and really getting a life did not went unnoticed, so I got accused that I think only of myself and that I am selfish.

She is so determined to leave, so unhappy that she does not have the means/abbility/courage to do so, and eventually she is obsessed with me, why I am happy and enjoying life without her?

I have changed. Maybe I have detached too much, but I simply don't care anymore to her tantrums and try not to get involved in never-changing arguments.
Two thing get me:
1. when she does this in front of daughter - don't insult me or my daughter because you are insecure!
2. when she makes up blatant lies about what I said, what I intend to do, and when I deny it she arguments: 'I know what I heard, are you trying to make me mental?'

Definitely have to work on how to handle those two responses well.

Bear, I'm newer to your sitch. Are there any plans to separate, or are you going to leave it up to her to take that action?

I'd say in response to her lying about what you said, I'd simply ignore it whenever possible (unless it was about something very important).

One solution that would solve BOTH problems would be to go to text/email only regarding anything regarding anything more than 'hello'. Email/text is great because:
-You can think before replying so all of your communication is in line with your goals.
-You have a record of everything that was said which protects you from lies, protects your daughter as she wouldn't be exposed, etc
-You both have an equal voice. No one can get talked over, even someone that is conflict adverse can get the forum they need to voice themselves.

I haven't spoken to XW in coming up on two years. Email/text only. No emotions, no R talks, no nothing. Just business, and the minimal number of words needed to accomplish the goal at hand. It has been the best thing for my sitch.

Good luck!