Confused on What to Do

[CT1118]

I know she is scared and I won't be shocked if she stops her EA for a little while, but then starts back up.

I'm not trying to be a johnson, but I wouldn't hold my breath. She most likely has this dude in full control. Her hitting the pause button is a pause, not a stop. At this stage of the game, rule number 32 buddy.

I have my guard up, as far as I am concerned nothing has changed today on the way I'm going to live my life. I am going to work on detaching and if she really ends her EA and makes a genuine effort to try to work things out then I will listen, but I know that will take a lot of time. She would also have to come clean with everything that has went on. She would need to give me her passwords to her accounts and I would have to know she is seeking help and trying. We are a long way from that I think right now.

Started off great, much praise. But the what she would have to do stuff...you are a long way from that and if you are still in fight/accuse zone, speaking with her about your MR is not going to help either of you. Rule numbers 5 and 17.

Also, I have thought about a job.

Awesome, this could be your best GAL yet!

This weekend I am going to continue to detach for me. If she wants to talk I will, but she has to be the one to initiate it.

That's the right attitude man. The weekend has come and gone though, so how did it pan out? Re-read the 37 rules on the Newcomer forum. Those items still apply, especially for how we conduct ourselves in the face the aggression. Hope you are well, all MLC soup du jour aside.