It sounds like you are doing great. Their selfishness is something I just can't get my head around. My wh is the same as your wife- not very hands on re the childcare at all. It's hard because you feel the guilt for the child, we struggle to deal with these feelings, so I can't even imagine what these young children think about a parent that withdraws. My S isn't even comfortable in wh's company anymore, and while that hurts like hell, I know that it just means I need to stay focused and protect him the best I possibly can. It sounds like you're all over this and giving him lots of love and happy memories. You sound like an amazing dad!
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16