I've been coming around to that better me/dad thinking more & more following supportive forum posts such as yours. Trying to rise above W's provocation & not be drawn into retaliatory games needs work but I'm getting there.
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd