Quote: Somewhere we have made the error of treating sex as a bonus for me if I'm very lucky and not a natural part of the relationship.
I think many women look at sex this way, it's a bonus for the guy, it's not really necessary for the relationship. I remember a while back overhearing my wife on the phone with her sister, and her sister mentioned something that the husband did for her that she thought was romantic, and my wife said "Did you reward him with sex?". Talk about the wrong way to view sex. An yet, how many people view sex as "Bonus" stuff rather then a critical element of a good marriage. If you look at "Great Marrriages" on the internet, you will see that couples that have achieved great marriages do NOT look at sex as a "Bonus". They know that sex is critical to the well being of the marriage.
The trick is to actually convince a LD woman that this is true, and that is no easy task.
