Hi Amy, I'm sorry you are here but also happy that you found this forum so fast. I wish I knew about it 2+ years ago when my h's MLC started. I would have avoided a lot of mistakes... I don't post much (not very good at expressing my feelings in writing) but I follow a lot of threads & it's really helping. When you see that situations of many of us are so similar to yours you will feel less alone. Reading here what other MLCers say and realising that it's identical to what your h says to you will also make you realise that it's not you, it's him. It doesn't hurt less to hear those things from your h but it's strangely comforting to know that it's the "disease" talking. Unfortunately, there is no quick fix for this but being here will hopefully make it easier for you. Job has always great advice and there are many really wonderful and supportive people here. Keep posting. Sending some strength your way. Bee
