Well, yeesh, you've been through it, haven't you? I don't know what to say, other than thank God you made it through... I can't even imagine.
Look. Tell your GF that you don't need her to desire sex, ie., you don't need her to feel horny all the time. What you need and want is a wife who desires you as her partner and can work with you to express your love to each other in a physical way. That includes sex, yes, but she must understand that even though she may not feel a physcial urge to ML, that it is an extraordinarily important way for you to convey love TO her and feel loved BY her.
It may not feel that way for her, but it does for you, and if she doesn't think she's ready to commit to that type of intimacy and honesty between you, then you'd like to put off the wedding indefinately. If she thinks she can, then I'd give it a good year to see if she really means it.
As far as friend and family go, announce to one and all that you have mutually decided to postpone the wedding for a year. There is no reason to explain, but if pressed, tell one and all that the both of you feel better for the wait. Period.
This is YOUR life, not your friends or your family's. If they continue to press, tell them that everything is fine, but you'd really like it if they would respect your privacy. A great opportunity to practice BOUNDARIES.
