I would stop mediation right now. I did one session with my W and it was awful. It was with Relationship Scotland which is the portion of relate up here. My W thought the counsellor was on my side only and just made things worse. Seriously, unless your W wants to be part of the process, there is nothing in this but heartache.
Remember, anyone who doesn't see there side of the story is an enemy. I went for the next session on my own (I'd already paid for it) and the next counsellor was firmly in the 'let her go' school of thought.
Just my tuppence worth!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015