MLC, WAW or WW?? Who really knows? Help...pls

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Hi Linda, I came to the realization that I do not want to be married anymore to this W. I'm willing to either walk or work. It's really up to W. I will continue to stand so long as there are signs of hope or remorse. Otherwise no. I'm ready to move on. I'm still not going to be the one to file. Filing would negate my stance that I did everything possible to salvage our MR. The only way that will change is with the continued abuse and damage W is causing and all the reason to set the example for our kids. I hope they are never faced with these issues from their spouses nor they cause the damage themselves. Each day is a new day.

W was again spending her Griday evening w/OM and her click of new friends. I decided to spend the evening away from home. I watched my D17 out of town HS soccer game then on the way home stopped at the pub for a burger and craft beer (I love this new craft beer craze ). Crazy thing is. I didn't stay out late and when I arrived home W was already home and had gone to bed. Not what I expected at all. Hmmm,, not sure what to make of that.

Her response to my agreeing with her about D,,, it was more of a knee jerk response, defiant and intended to inflict hurt. Can't remember the exact words since really didn't care but it was snarky and vindictive. I did not react I just stayed true to what I said and said nothing more. Since then, she's tested me a couple of times by goading me into a fight or into saying something provocative. I've not fallen into the trap. maintained expressionless but confident silence. I also started doing some homework to get the process rolling. I think she knows I'm ready and willing to D and move on. I'm not making an ultimatum but giving her a boundary for how she threatens me and also letting her know that I'm finished with living in the shadow of the OM and their behaviors. The A is their problem, not mine.

Anyway, I'm rambling. Detaching and feeling better.

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