Not a great night, W has been up all night crying, being sick, saying she can't understand how she could be so selfish and stupid to have done what she has done, saying she is nothing nothing more than a common whore and doesn't deserve me or the kids!
She seems in a meltdown of shame and self hate! Not sure how to handle it at all, I've tried to be supportive.
Blue, while this sounds like it might be tough to see and hear on a daily basis, it sounds like an amazing step. If you've followed my threads at all, you'll know that my usual followers keep telling me that "I can't believe what I did to you" is something I'll probably never hear even if we do reconcile. You have heard that! Your W is having to reconcile with herself the things she's done against her own value system. The hurt and pain she's dealt to those who love her the most.
It's hard because, still, YOU were the wronged one but you must be there to console. Hearing you tell her she is worth it will help, but much like a sense of happiness she's going to have to heal her heart largely herself. You can contribute to that certainly, and it sounds like you're doing a good job.
Just keep in mind that this is very positive for your future. It's hard, certainly, but keep it up because you're doing well!
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
