Just dropped by your post Blueboy and didn't want to leave without saying something.
Sounds like you had a really rough night. It must be so hard to see someone you love beat themselves up like this and there is little you can do about it. I have seen in several posts where Sandi2 explains that she went through this stage of remorse as well so it sounds like this is part of the process although I am sure that doesn't make it any easier.
Hang in there. IMHO she probably needs to feel this way if she is ever going to forgive herself.
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')