Cherry. H is filing and leaving. Working on me

[Cherry]

Heard an argument between wh and his mom. I heard the ow brought up. I fought against going saying anything because I thought this is their discussion. I heard him start raising his voice to her fabricating stories of how she would hit him as a child. Now I know that can't be right, all I've ever known about him is how close they were- she was always his upmost priority, there has always been the two of them and I have never seen such an amazing close bond between them. And she is the nicest mom you could wish for, she took me on like a child of her own and has been there for me. But wh and her, everyone knows how close they are, at work, everyone. And I knew when I got with him that I would have to find my own place in his heart as I respected all she had done and their close bond.

So I start hearing him yell more at her, and she's in tears. He yelled something like get out of my life to her, and she yelled out something along the lines of don't hit me. So I threw the door open at that point. He starts getting confrontational at me. I didn't rise to his bait, he started spewing about no one trusting him, and he feels ganged up on and will be glad when he leaves. I let him spew his sh!t out, but the one thing I did say to him was that I would not talk to him if he wanted to shout, I do not tolerate that disrespect, nor will I tolerate him pointing his hand towards me. He started swearing this and that on our S's life- I don't go for that. I don't appreciate anyone taking my children's name into that kinda context, so I told him that I was there to protect my children. He tried to say "what against just swearing on people's life". So I made my point clearly that I will protect them from anyone and anything that gets anywhere near to disrespecting or hurting them. I said it calmly, no emotion. I did not raise my voice. And with that I walked away. Because right then and there, I wanted to say I will protect them from @ssholes like you, or becoming anything like you.

And with that, the anger took over and I am back to thinking I want this toxic disrespectful person far away from me. I will not stand for anyone raising their voice at me or pointing at me. I don't give a damn who they are, I just won't tolerate it.