Treating him like a guest is kind of how I have tried to, I say hello/goodbye when necessary. Other than that there is literally no conversation. And if he is actually home, he hides out in his bedroom like some spoilt teenager. My toddler behaves far better than this man child.
Mine won't respond to my hello/goodbyes, but she does choose to sit in our presence on her iPhone. I almost wish she'd take the thing and go to another room and let my D and I enjoy each other w/o her. It's like a dark cloud hanging over everything when she does. Tough to beat back that darkness...
Originally Posted By: Cherry
I hold out no expectations for when he moves, it'll probably just be even longer silences. I can have some hope, but he just feels like he truly means this, there isn't any glimmer of hope. And no sign of him changing out of the inconsiderate a@@hole he has become
I think the approach of holding no expectations is a good one. However, watching others situations, there does seem to be results when going dark after you've physically separated. At the very least it's something different to be tried. I'd also imagine it removes this huge 24/7 stress on our lives that is in house separation. It's like a very painful groundhog day, over and over and over again every day....bleh
Regardless, don't let the man child get to you! You rock Cherry, keep chugging along!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
