Cherry. H is filing and leaving. Working on me

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Is anyone else in an in house seperation just completely and utterly ignored? I'm really tiring of being treated like I'm worthless.

He is really getting to me to the point that I really want to tell him that I'm fed up of this disrespect and I want him to leave asap. I don't know wether that would help. But the being dim and leaving him to it for the past few weeks/ months has not seemed to make a damn bit of difference neither.

I know that me telling him this will shoot straight over his head. But he's getting to the stage that he is really angering me with this treatment. I mean I am utterly ignored. There is zero communication, zero contact. He just creeps in and out of the house when he pleases

Cherry, I'm in a similar situation w/ my WW. She completely ignores me and won't talk to me unless I break one of her "rules", then she attempts to pick a fight w/ me. It's very frustrating.

When I was pursuing at the start of this I used to tell her if we could just have conversations, we could fix this (before I knew of OM). W would shoot back that we hadn't had a conversation in 5yrs and she wasn't about to start now. Those really hurt at the time.

I started talking to a DB coach and they offered that I treat her like an out of town guest. Tried that by saying goodnight to her one evening before I went up to bed. She ignored it and didn't respond. next thing I know, I've got her up in our mbr asking me "you know this thing is over and staying in the same house isn't going to fix anything, right?". Still working to figure out how this interaction should go, but if she were an out of town guest right now I'd toss her suitcase into the street and tell her to catch a plane home!

I'm wondering if I consistently treat her like this if it'll get things to level in the house? I don't think it truly solves anything though, more just potentially removes some of the palatable hatred in the home. Probably sets things on a good tone for when you do physically separate and you can truly go dark.

WW started back up w/ her eyerolls yesterday, so i'll need to address that this weekend. It's like dealing w/ a child and I completely get your pain. At least w/ our kids we can put them in time out. I know what you're going through Cherry and it [censored], but i'll be curious to see what comes of him moving out when he does. I'd bet if you can keep things at neutral now, it'll make for a better starting point when going dark. Just my 2 cents.

Hang in there! You have a much more difficult situation to manage than mine and I'm constantly impressed by just how strong and good of a mom you are!