Originally Posted By: Sandi2 As a woman who betrayed the one man who loved her the most.......I can honestly tell you that you never forget what you did to your spouse, but you don't dwell on it all the time.
I hurt my H very badly. I thought about what I had done every single day. I would pray, cry, read, or whatever.......trying to forgive myself, b/c I had no peace in my soul. I learned that it is harder to forgive yourself than anyone else.
Every day & night........and all in between........something would trigger my mind to think of my betrayal. If I was at work or around anyone, I would silently tell myself that my H forgave me, and that God forgave me, and for me to not forgive myself was not what either (my H or God) wanted. I would silently pray or recite scripture to give me strength to get through that period.
Sandi - these words kind of shook me. Is it possible my WW is feeling this even as she is still completely wayward, or do these emotions only set in once the fog has lifted? I posed this question to you in my thread, but I know you have been posting here.
I am not caught up with your stitch, RAI. The post above that I wrote to Ghost was about my struggles in forgiving myself. This came after I finally was able to humbly apologize and ask for my H's forgiveness. I found it hard, but easier than forgiving myself.
The H of a wayward wife, needs to understand that she is not going to experience those feelings I described above, until she feels true remorse for her attitudes and actions against him. Sorry if I failed to communicate that part.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
