Hi, This is my first post here and I am currently halfway through the SSM book. At last I feel some comfort in discovering my situation is not unique but it's been a painful journey to get this far. I'll keep things brief at first: I'm male, 39 and we've been together for 16 years and we're supposed to be getting married later this year. We have a wonderful companionship and we kiss and cuddle everyday. However, she has never desired sex and pushes me away as soon as I cross a certain line. We did used to have sex on occasion but it got less and less and now it's less than once per year when there's a spark of interest from her for about 3 minutes! She says she's sorry she doesn't have any interest and won't hardly talk about it and says my higher desire is my problem. I love her very much but this pain and the inability to talk about it is really tough. I'm at my wits end to understand what's going on. How can I pursuade her to read the book and then get some help?
