Hey Cherry, I know your not doing these things to show him that you will be ok without him but you are doing them out of necessity and basic survival for you and your little ones but maybe your lack of concern for him might be a bit of a wake up call for him....

Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')