Mia I'm at similar state, I also want to grab H by the shoulders and shake him until he wakes up or gets out of his fog. However I know that is impossible, so I'm trying to be in control of what I can change, myself. I know I'm not responsible for his unhappiness or MLC, but I understand that my biggest mistake was to assume he was happy all this time. I don't think there is much I can do to change the situation so I'm making myself better. I'm better than the OW (he is having an EA with a friend of mine) and I hope that one day he will see that. If not that's his loss, and I'll have to deal with that.
Sorry for the rumbling, I guess all I'm trying to say is to try not to worry about what he does, and concentrate on yourself and your children. Really gloats to do but more constructive than wasting energy on the alien that took over your H's body.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
