Hey Pinkie! Sorry not posted for a bit, but have been reading along. I thought the observations about the cycle with you and XH were useful. Don't beat yourself up about not managing to empty your heart. It does take time and the main thing is to be on a healing path. I think if you are not able to interact with detachment, then a little more distance is good. If you are more detached, you can tolerate a little more closeness.

From all that you post, I imagine he will continue to do what he does for a while yet....so it's what you do that really matters.

Great news on the rave reviews at work....and the pay rise - go Pink!! Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus