Cherry, h is filing. Working on me

[Phoebe]

Cherry, Sara is exactly right. OW has gotten a poor facsimile of the man you thought you knew. Right now he is no prize. Maybe that man still exists, and maybe not. Only time will tell.

Here's the things, though - You wouldn't want him back in his current inconsiderate, selfish, self-absorbed, crappy-parent state right now, regardless.

Ask yourself a very serious question: If you met your WH in a singles setting and heard his story and witnessed his attitude toward another woman, would you think you wanted to share your life with and raise a family with this person, or would you be thinking you should run as fast and as far away as possible?

Right now WH is toxic, and he has lot of work to do to get the poisons out of his system.

You, however, are rising above his red tide, and learning to not only survive, but to thrive without him. You won't feel it every minute, but slowly you will get there.

We all will.