Me and Midlife Wife and Midlife

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By becoming individuals again we can see who is really the source of the problem, is it ourselves or is it our partner?

My behavior was most certainly part of the problem. Not the cause. And it did not cause her A, which on my worst days now I simply find annoying and on my best days i don't pay it attention. I am working on my problems in a new and permanent way and I am excited. I am watching her work on her problems in an old and temporary way and I am disappoint. I have left the light on...

I think that people like us who came from troubled families should live separately, I think it's best because we need to heal from the wounds we received during our childhood and because we don't want to hurt our partner. I think that LAT (living apart together) is best for people who come from troubled families like you and I. This is what I would like to achieve with the mother of my children at some point, a loving relationship where each one of us has his own space and we live separately.

Actually, if or when or if her and I find a way to be healthy and reconcile LAT is exactly what I would want. I am very familiar w/ that concept as it is what I had first proposed to her when we were discussing S and I did not fully appreciate the fullness of her current situation.

I have realized from the start of this stuff that I would use it to my advantage. Now I got my own apartment. I do not ever want to own a house again. It [censored] up time your time, it wastes money, it restricts mobility, and it abuses energy. All IMO of course.