It has been a week since WW spewed at me about me being controlling and manipulative and she needing to start dating other people while we live together, and hurled some hateful insults at me. Since then I have grown very dim with her. When she texts I only respond to questions about logistics and then as succinctly as possible without trying to be too curt. At home we usually only see each other for about 15 minutes after I get home from work and before she heads out for her night shift. We talk about S for a moment and the smallest of small talk. I am happy to see S and usually focused on him, but will look directly at W when she talks to me and tell her good bye when she leaves. I try to have the most amicable tone that I can but sometimes only manage a deadpan.
She sent me a text the other day that she was "sorry about how things were between us and that she definitely saw her role in all this." I didn't respond, but, yeah, I can definitely see her role in all this, too. I'd say it was pretty obvious. (eyeroll)
She sent another text soon afterward about our schedules and then slipped in that we could talk about things when she got home from work. I answered the scheduling issues but didn't respond to the "talk." Last night, after our S went to bed I was sitting on our back patio and W popped her head out to say she was going to bed, but that she was off the next night and that we can have a talk. I just said "ok, goodnight."
Honestly, I don't think I'm up for a "talk" but I don't want to simply avoid a difficult situation. No, I don't think that she's suddenly come to her senses and wants to come back to the marriage, not for a second! I really think she's had a few days to reflect on how mean and spiteful she was to me last week and wants to find a way to smooth things over so she can feel less guilty and less like the bad guy in this.
I don't really feel like engaging with her, so I think I will politely decline her offer to chat. I will be too tired. Or, I may ask her what she wants to discuss, and if it's not our S, finances, scheduling, or her moving out, I'm not interested.
I just suspect she going to switch gears and go from wrathful WW to sweet apologetic friend and I don't care for either from her right now.
I'd like anyone's perspective on this. Am I just avoiding a difficult situation and making it worse? Should I hear her out? I am torn because I feel like it's always good to allow for communication and have an opportunity to validate but I also feel like I'm just going to be manipulated into assuaging her guilty feelings.
