I understand where you are coming from. I know it was not smart. As I was talking to her I was thinking it might not be a good idea. I know she is not going to stop the A. I have read the book, but I had a moment of weakness last night. As I think back to what got me to say this to her I think it was not only the kids, but the fact that she was attacking me by rewriting our history. I should have just walked away and went to bed but I think I finally just had enough.
I didn't yell or cry or anything like that. I didn't beg her to get help or come back to me. I told her I thought she needed help because she was going ruin her life and her relationship with the kids. I know she probably hates me more now than before, but what can I do?
I will say it did feel good in a way because I have never really confronted her with anything and I don't like conflict. I would always walk away with presented with something like this in the past. I would be afraid of what she would say or the consequences, so in a way I may have screwed up my M more but I think I feel better about myself.
This morning she went to work early. I was awake but pretended to sleep when she left. I don't really know what to do from here. I know I am not going to push her and I am going to keep my distance. If she wants to talk I will talk but I will not initiate it. I need to read more about what to do though, because today begins a new chapter in this saga. I know her relationship with the OM will still be going and I guess the only thing that's really changed is that she knows I know that.
Step back from it, let it fester inside of her...
Now is the time, more than ever, to walk the walk...
Don't feel that you HAVE to do anything...other than to live YOUR changes...
