I totally understand your confusion regarding H because it is all new
They totally change during the crises and as it progresses, some get worse in replay They forget or possibly don't see the responsibility about money and kids as they used to Many go in debt, take up with a younger OW or older OW Usually they affair DOWN…their current partner may have addiction issues, control issues, psych issues
some lose jobs..many of them seem to leave decent homes , financial security and stable environments to live on the Wild side for a while
His mother and family also probably are in denial or can't fully see the crises the way we do- as we are learning and reading and we see it..others may not
people that move a lot, that can be an addiction also They are trying to find anyway possible to Feel Good as much as possible
MY XH also said His new girl made him feel good and she treated him as equal-- Fast forward many years read my current thread, and you will see where my XH is NOW
You are doing well Put your focus on your well being take the best care of you and kids as possible work on forgiveness--takes time I promise you the LBS always comes out better and stronger and lands on their feet, while the MLCer sometimes does and most often NOT
hang in it gets easier with each passing day until it no longer effects you at all peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
