I've been a silent lurker, and I am on a board , but I had took a peek yesterday while waiting for some friends and caught up a little. First, thanks for sharing that story about how you met and the break in your R, because I think it says a lot.
On thing that really stuck out at me, and it's all semantics, but maybe not a MLC. Sounds like repeated patterns of behavior over the years, the codependency, destructive behaviors, the running from problems.......Seems to be a theme since you guys were "kids" The interesting thing I have noticed, being married (and divorced) very young myself, is sometimes one partner grows up and learns better coping mechanisms and becomes more independent, and the other doesn't. Or sometime neither partner really ever had a chance to figure who they are independently or how to cope and grow together. Either way, the people here on the MLC forum will be able to help you. because MLC, WAS, whatever it may be..... kind of the same plan of action for YOURSELF.
I am from back in the days of these great posters. Eric is a close friend, and a big brother to me. And honestly, one of the most emotionally mature men I have the pleasure of knowing.
Answer those questions he asked.
I've learned much from being a divorcee at the age of 29 with a baby. While it stunk, it made me who I am today. The one huge gift I got was the ability to look inward and get real with myself. The hardest thing to do, but the best thing to do.
