Albac - 7 months in. Life goes on.

[albac]

Gump,

It is messed up and I honestly don't have the answers. I may not be backup plan at all but I won't know if I don't ask questions. It's so hard to know what moves to make. One side I can see I am so much better off away from her.

There is no way I'm going anywhere with her or my D2 as a family. It is the only thing that might wake her up is she thinks she will still have all these times where we do things as a family I have already said no to all of these. I mean ffs she invited me to go to her house for Father's Day and she would cook my dinner!! Of course again I said no but I really feel I need to cut her more loose. Not drop the rope but cut it in half.

Like so many have said checking out or folding isn't going to help as you still have to deal with them all the time over children. I'm not looking to shut the door on a possible reconsiliation but it's not getting my focus. It's no good for my health to be thinking about her all the time so trying to detach and tell myself that it is her loss is about all I can do.

But your question about her heart. At the moment she doesn't have one she can't see my problem with any of this and like the example you gave of two people agreeing it didn't work and staying friends I honk that is how she sees it on her side. But I do not and will not be a cake shop.