I just wanted her to get better. I told her I wasn't going to try to stop her affair but I loved her and she needs help.
Telling a crazy person they are crazy doesn't usually go over well. I'm not going to hit you with a 2x4 for you talking to her.
Saying, I hope you get better, or I hope you get help... In her mind you are the problem...not anything she is doing or going through.
Saying stuff like this is like saying I love you to them. Did you read the book? Do you know why you don't say I love you anymore to them?
And since you still are...please stop.
You don't say I love you, because when you do, it reminds them that they don't love you.
The kids and texts... Only you knew she was texting OM, not the kids. Disrespectful? Sort of, but in this case, you let yourself get anger on behalf of you kids.They had no idea so really there ignorance protected them from being disrespected.
It is easy to use your children as a means to become angry with them. To get upset and feed that fire and rage.
Use your anger as a shield, NOT a sword.
Use it to fuel you detachment, burn it when you work out and can't do another rep. You can work out in your house, sit ups push ups. Use it to steel yourself when you feel weak and have to snoop.
You will find out the outcome of this soon, learn from it.
And stop trying to imagine what she will do, your monsters are bigger in your head.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
