Albac - 7 months in. Life goes on.

[ForGump]

Man your W is really messed up in her head. I'm sorry. Taking her pants off? Come on. That is just plain cruel.

There are all kinds of divorces, including some where both are totally at peace to say they've grown apart and have become good friends. I think those are rare. Each person has to decide what he/she feels OK after the split. For me, going on a trip w/ my Ex just is not going to happen. Can't do it. The best I can do is to show up at a kid's school event. Not going out of town w/ my Ex.

I'm totally OK w/ you telling me I'm wrong.

Are you really your W's backup plan? When OM falls through, would she really come back to you for a marriage or some type of a romantic relationship? I don't know much about your situation, but I'd be surprised. I think you're just emotional cake for you. When OM falls through, she not going to come back -- she'll want to cry on your shoulders, be comforted, but she's going to go find another OM.

You have to ask yourself, who is this woman? Who is your wife? What is her heart like? It's hard to answer. But once you know, you will know whether you want to endure more suffering for this woman, or not.

I'm not my W's backup plan. I'm cake, and not even all that much of a cake. I'm roadkill.