The Fight For Self III

[ForGump]

CT -- I once worked for a state university, and took advantage of free legal counsel offered for legal matters not related to divorce. Your experience reminds me of what I went through. You were not dealing w/ a law office -- you were dealing with a company that administers the benefit. In any case, I think your point is still valid, that divorce is just very common. I mean, we all know it: 50% of first marriages, 60% of the second, etc. My recommendation is to be patient and tolerant of the stupid bureaucracy, and just give them answers they want. And then when you finally have time with a lawyer, talk about issues you really want to talk about. My experience with lawyers is that they vary a lot. Some are very aggressive, others are too passive, and hopefully you can find one that fits your philosophy just right.