CT, Thank you for sharing. Reliving your situation isn't easy, but it will help us help you along the way. Like, eric, I need just a wee bit of time to think about it and provide some comments that may help you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.