I understand what you are saying and I agree with you. If it was only me I would have found a new girlfriend right after she filed for divorce, but we have two children and my boy is 3 so it means that I will have to deal with his mother for 15 more years. In those 15 years she could destroy me financially, drag me to court for every little thing and even send me to jail. Unfortunately this is the reality we live in, judges believe women even when they lie. I need to keep below profile, fully aware that I need to act in the best interest of the children no matter what. Every time I make a decision I ask myself, is this in the best interest of the children? If I were a child, would I want my dad to do this? I am not saying that you have to act this way as well. This is just the way I was raised, I need to sacrifice my needs for the benefit of my children. Right now the mother of my children is just a scary monster that I don't want to be around, but who knows, maybe 5 years from now she will become the most positive, smiling, friendly, loving person that I know. We will see.
