Definitely saw the post from Fade, but honestly I'm having trouble digesting it. It's such a massive step to take. I've found the L I believe I'm going to use, but haven't retained them yet. Maybe it makes sense to go ahead and take that step.
I do worry about how the W will perceive me cutting them a retainer check though. Very hesitant for me to become the person who is pushing this whole thing forward. Would have preferred that burden to be on my W. By me proceeding with it I'm concerned that alleviates her guilt around the whole D process.
Fade, you're right in that I couldn't see my W making those kind of accusations against me. That said, I definitely do not want to be blindsided by something as egregious as that. To be frank, I've probably not responded yet to your post bc it really scares the sh%t out of me...
Part of that fear is that if I take a move like cutting everything off and putting a custody order in place I've thrown in the towel on my MR. It seems like if there's any hope to salvaging this situation, this would effectively kill that. Am I taking too drastic of a view on this? Am I being stupid in hoping that this is salvageable? Am I risking too much in the hope that I can keep my MR and family together?
My IC also says not to threaten her w/ the custody stuff. He also thinks that she's going to be difficult to deal w/ in regards to it. Bleh.
I appreciate ya'lls thoughts, and Fade, I'm sorry for not responding sooner. Really curious to get some more thoughts on this and whether I've got rose colored glasses on. Thank you Fade/Sandi/MV for the straight talk and perspective. Should I be this concerned about the situation?
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
