Confused on What to Do

[Eagle11]

I am worried about our finances. For those who have read my original post I am a stay at home dad and my wife has a good paying job. We bought a house a couple of months ago and used a lot of our savings for a down payment. We were not worried at the time because she has a bonus coming in September that would get most of that down payment back.

Here is my problem. This past month I have been watching what I spend. I haven't really spent anything on myself (less that $50). Most of my expenses have been for the house and kids. My W has spent a bunch of money at Victoria's Secret (not sure how much), she got her hair done (probably around $250) and she has got a tattoo (no idea how much but probably not cheap). These are expenses that I know of but there are probably others. She is basically spending like she always does. We also had a major car expense at the beginning of the month (over $1000). I'm wondering if I need to say something to her? Well, I know something needs to be done but I don't know what. If we end up getting a D, then we need all the money we can get.

I'm thinking I might need to talk to a lawyer about all of this. She has always been a free spender (one of our issues), and I have always complained to her about it. I complained less as she kept getting raises and promotions, but I am worried that she might make us go broke. I could get joint accounts but I currently don't have any income and as long as she wants to keep the living arrangements and responsibilities the same then I won't be able to get a job. I'm not really sure what to do, but I'm thinking of talking to a lawyer.